I believe we’re all a work in progress, I don’t think any of us are ever “done” and that’s just one of the reasons why I place so much value on continuous personal growth and development. As you read through the following three things that I continue to work on myself, have a think about things that you continue to work on or things that you’d like to make more time to work on.
1. Choosing to respond rather than react
That desire to reply to the email and tell the sender exactly what you think of their expectation to have it done by the end of business today. Or that desire to tell the guy in the gym that not everybody wants to listen to his pumping techno. Sound familiar? If not, then you’re clearly a better person than I used to be! However, these days I am different because these days I choose to respond to situations rather than react to them. These days if I feel something is getting to me, I pose myself the question, how is reacting in that way actually going to benefit me? and the answer is usually it won’t. Develop the habit of pausing for a second and responding in a way that is going to benefit you.
2. Focusing on what I have
I’ve lived in a lot of different apartments, it goes hand in hand with living internationally, especially in the UAE. While I moved three times during my first seven years in Dubai, the third move was without a doubt the most frustrating and upsetting. I stormed around the new apartment complaining that lights didn’t work, the AC smelt like something had died in it, no curtains, no wardrobes etc. I continued to focus on what I didn’t have without actually thinking about what I did have. I had a roof over my head, I had the brighter place that I wanted, the kitchen was actually “bigger” and there was water in the taps. When we have high expectations we’re more susceptible to falling into that trap of focusing on what we don’t have before we see all we actually do have.
3. Asking for Help
Ever since I sat in front of my local GP aged 21 knowing that I was seriously depressed and battling an eating disorder, I have placed a huge emphasis on asking for help. I no longer see asking others for help as a sign of weakness but as a sign of strength and great self-awareness. Of course, there are still times when I think I can do the majority of things on my own, but building a business is not one of them. And so, when faced with challenges now, yes I will naturally persevere as best as I can, but when I recognize I don’t have the knowledge or the skillset to move forward, I know it’s time to pick up the phone and ask someone who does.