Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is an explicit and powerful model of human experience and communication. The name, NLP, is meant to symbolize the relationship between the brain, language, and the body, it embodies several techniques that can change the way people think, learn and communicate- MindBridge Trainings, USA.
There is a myriad of ways in which my study of NLP has helped, and continues to empower me, personally and professionally on a daily basis. From gaining a greater understanding of others; to improving my communication; to letting go of the baggage of the past and moving forward with my life, here are just three NLP “presuppositions” that work to enhance communication and human relationships:
1. Everyone has a unique map of the world
When we hold onto the belief that not everybody thinks the same; not everybody has the same values and beliefs as ourselves, then it makes it easier for us to begin to understand others and where they might be coming from. But if we hold onto the belief that we all share the same “map” of reality, and if we believe that we all have the same values, we create an instant communication block.
2. There is no such thing as failure, only feedback
I’ve said it before, but focusing on the lessons learned rather than focusing on what went wrong is always a more constructive way of thinking. Similarly, learning to see “negative” experiences as feedback, and then using that feedback to feedforwards is again, a more constructive choice to make. So how can you use an experience you’ve had recently to your benefit? How can you use it to move forward?
3. Behind every behavior is a positive intention
This usually proves to be the presupposition that creates most debate; how can there be a positive intention behind every behavior? However, if we take this statement to be true and we apply it to situations that we’ve allowed to frustrate or anger us, then it helps us to gain a different perspective on that event or experience—a more constructive one. For example, if you consider for a minute that the person spreading gossip in the office is doing it to feel included or to create a feeling of belonging rather than being malicious or nefarious, it can immediately change how we view the person.
How about you keep these three things at the forefront of your mind as you go about your day today and see how they affect your interaction and your perception of those around you?